About seven years ago, when I was studying to be a hairdresser, I took a course of French in open university. I sat beside this really smart, highly-educated girl who told me that she just started to study Chinese - in addition to other hundread languages she already mastered. We were basically complete opposites. But she was nice, she always had a pen for me and maybe some extra paper to write on. One day she asked me about my history, what have I been doing.
I graduated from high school after four years. I was interested in radio work, as I'd have my own internet radio channel that I hosted for couple of years, just for fun. I got in to this one-year program but I realized I was not such a sell-out to make my way into the business. I was young and didn't make the effort, to be honest. After that I didn't know what to do so I decided to try economics and accounting. After six months of that it was time to admit that path was definitely not for me and move on. I started working as a sales person. For two years I sold jeans and clothes and got to learn the basics of customer service. I think I got rid off my shyness, at least a little bit. Unfortunately I experienced a slight burn-out and decided to quit everything for the sake of recovery. For one month, I did nothing. Absolutely nothing, except the things I loved. I remembered this thought I had one day when I was still folding those jeans into piles. "It would be so cool to learn how to dye someone's hair." It was spring and I noticed that they started to take applications for the hairdressing program. And the rest is history.
"Hahaha, well you couldn't choose any bigger variety for your occupation choices?", she said and laughed. "Well, no", I answered. "I have always done what feels right for me, to go there where I feel like I belong and stay true to myself. I cannot do something that I don't care about."
This society has a really strange standards for what your career or life should look like. I don't know who even dared to do or say so. I feel like my generation is here to change that and I'm thankful for that. I've done little bit of this and little bit of that and I have never had any regrets, even though those things didn't work out. It was never wasted time because I have always learned something new. I have listened to my heart and my intuition and I'm at peace with everything I've ever done.
You must do what feels right for you, change your job or get a new education. It's okay and you'll be fine or even better. If you are clueless what to do next, don't worry. If you feel miserable and want to change your life completely, just do it. F*ck those standards, they are not real. In fact, let's get rid of them once and for all.
One of my teachers in hairdressing school once said to me that she doesn't see me making it as a hairdresser. So here's my adcive to you, my friend, especially if you're in the cross road with your next move. The only way to succeed is to not worry about what others are doing or thinking.
Make-up & photos by Charlotta Takkula